CREATIVE WRITING and THEARTER ARTS
Assignment 1: Case Study Analysis
August 7, 2017Technology and Globalization
August 7, 2017CREATIVE WRITING and THEARTER ARTS
BRING THIS STORY ALIVE. USE THE UNDER LISTED INFORMATION TO BRING THIS STORY TO LIGHT. THERE WILL BE TWO PARTS TO THIS ASSIGNMENT.
PART ONE: USE THE INFORMATION BELOW FOR A THREE-PAGE SUMMARY.
PART TWO: USE THE 57 INFORMATIONS TO WRITE A 30 PAGE CREATIVE ESSAY.
THE TOPIC OF THE TRUE STORY IS “ HOW I DISTROYED MYSELF AND MY MARRIAGE”
FIRST STAGE
1. I met my husband at the age of 18 at a traditional wedding in my hometown, Owerri, Imo State of Nigeria, West Africa.
2. I was a very shy and beautiful intelligent young woman who just passed out of high school.
3. I was a virgin and my dream was to become a medical doctor
4. He swept me of my feet when he told me he lived in the USA, and that he was home to look for his missing rib for a wife. Him and his friends dressed to kill
and they were so clean and fresh and all the girls wanted them. He walked up to me and asked me what my name was, I simply said, UZOMA and he softly said in a very low
voice…..GOOD ROAD, which is the meaning of my name in English.
5. I was very afraid because I have never been so close to any man. While he was talking to me, his mother called him and he took me with him to answer his
mother. On getting to his mother, he said…mother, meet my wife, I felt very shy and greeted the mother.
6. I ended up loosing my virginity that night and before that happened, he said if I love him, that he will worship me. He said Gold and silver he had none but he
will be there to love and worship me if I love and cherish him.
7. 3 weeks later we did our traditional marriage. It was the best ever. All his friends from USA attended our marriage and I was the happiest young lady ever.
8. After our honeymoon, he went back to the USA and nine months later, I had our first child, a bouncing baby boy. He called almost everyday and send money at all
times.
9. He enrolled me in a nursing school, which I passed in flying colors, I had another baby two years later when he visited home and that was our second baby, a
beautiful girl.
10. 6 years later, our papers were ready and my children and me joined him in the United States.
SECOND STAGE
11. He lives in a clean three-bedroom house that he bought two years before he married me.
12. He did not go to college because he was the first child of the family and the breadwinner. He sponsored his two brothers and three sisters through high school
and university. He never had time for himself.
13. He works in a warehouse and did two jobs to support all of us.
14. We were very happy living together; he would do anything within his powers to make my children and me happy.
15. I got pregnant shortly after arriving in the USA and had our third child, a bouncing baby girl. He was the happiest man ever and he showed it in many ways. He
wore one suit for over a year so that my children and me can have all we wanted. He paid for everything, from mortgage, to food, took care of my children and me, sent
money to my poor parents in Africa and also took care of his own parents and siblings.
16. I did my best to look after him. I cooked his best foods, kept the house very clean, very submissive and very loyal to him.
THIRD STAGE
17. I went back to school to acquire my RN, which I did with ease. After my RN, he asked me if I was ready to make my dream come true as a medical doctor. I jumped
into his arms and planted a big kiss to his mouth. I enrolled in medical school and SIX years later, I became a qualified surgeon. He changed my name from UZOMA…..GOOD
ROAD, to MY DOCTOR. All this while that I was in school, he kept up with his two warehouse jobs, took care of all the bills both in US and in Africa. I always reminded
him that soon and very soon, that I will start making good money and all these hardship will be over, and he would look at me and say, I understand my doctor.
18. He assigned me a credit card from his bank to be able to shop whenever I wanted to because he is always working. I use his debit card whenever I want and I
also know his pin numbers and passwords to his phone.
FOURTH STAGE
19. I secured a job in a hospital and started making good money; things were very good the first year. I started mingling with fellow doctors and most of them were
either single or divorced. I started hanging out with them every Friday evenings and there way of life started affecting my marriage. These single or divorced women
have nobody to answer to and they did whatever they wanted and seemed very happy living on their own. They all had big houses and were always saying that living single
was living life. I opened a secret account that my husband did not know about. I acquired a credit card and a credit line of 300 thousand dollars that he did not know
about. I was tempted many times to cheat on him but I held back.
20. He noticed that I have changed and warned me to stay away from those single and divorced Men/women that I am hanging out with. I got really mad and yelled at
him never to talk to me like that ever again. I yelled at him that he has no right to choose my friends for me, after all this America and a woman I have rights to
live my life. He was so shocked because he has never seen me like that before.
21. He became frustrated and in the process lost both his jobs because he was not concentrating at work. He always goes to work very early in the morning but on
this day, he was still in bed till 8:00am. I did not want to talk to him because I know he was very angry and disappointed in my change of attitude. The next day, he
stayed at home, that was when I called his work places to find out that he has been fired because he was not doing his job properly. I went to him and asked why he was
not working; he simply looked at me and left the room. That look is still-hunting me to this day. If he had slapped or punched me, I would have preferred it to that
deadly look.
22.
FIFTH STAGE
23. I took over the whole bills, paying for the mortgage, and everything else. I started complaining about everything. I was not cooking for him as I used to. I
serve him the same food from Monday to Monday and sometimes I don’t really care whether the food I gave him was good or not. I will just cook the food and leave it on
the counter or on top of the stove for him to take to work. I cooked my own food with whatever kind of meat or vegetable of my choice and make him cheap food with meat
that was on sale. For some reason, I never cared about anything anymore. I was having fun with my fellow doctors and men of high caliber and never cared about him. He
called me one early morning and sat me down for a conversation. I sat down while he took his time to brush his mouth and sat opposite me. I noticed that he has
changed; he looked very old and haggard. In that instant I felt very guilty but my heart was strong at the same time. He told me to stop hurting him and his children,
and to stop hanging out with the people that I was hanging out with. I told him to go back to school instead of staying home everyday, doing nothing. He got real mad,
he was red and his body was shaking, I became so afraid of him thinking that he was going to beat me up, but instead, he said in a very low voice that I have
disappointed him. I told him that he should get some education so that he doesn’t have to work in a warehouse again that I am ashamed to go anywhere with him because
of the people I associate with and my profession. I further said that I couldn’t see myself staying married to a warehouse man.
24. He shook his head and laughed, I knew that kind of laugh, I became afraid again but he simply said that while he was a warehouse man working two jobs to put me
through nursing and medical school, that I did not see anything wrong with that, but now that I have graduated, he is now a warehouse man who needs education. I got up
and walked away.
25. My children were not happy with what was going on. I made them aware that their father has become lazy and refused to work. I made them to look down on him and
never listened to him as they used to do. My son became my best friends except my daughter who was always cooking for her father. I over heard my daughter telling her
father that she will soon start working and that she will take care of him. He hugged her and both of them were crying, they had no idea that I was watching them. I
cried as well, it was so touching that I went in the basement and cried.
PAINFUL EXPERIENCE
It was one of those ugly days; I say it is an ugly day because for the first time, I knew I have crossed a dangerous line. On that faithful day, my husband was eating
a Guava fruit and I asked him for a piece of the delicious guava, he bit off a piece of the guava and offered it to me, I refused to accept it and he demanded to know
why I refused it. I said he should have used the knife instead of biting off with his teeth. In the past we have bitten off stuff with our teeth and offered to each
other, which we accepted and enjoyed it, but today I had decided otherwise and I regretted it but it was too late. He looked at me with the deadliest eyes and dropped
the guava into his mouth. I immediately knew I have done something very stupid. I have done lots of stupid things to him, from hiding fruits so that he cannot eat
them, to serving him the cheapest foods, and to not showing him affection when he makes love to me. Refusing the guava was the last straw. I would have preferred if he
had slapped or punched me in the face to the deadly look on his face. Anytime, I remember that deadly look, my spirit dies.
TURN AROUND STAGE
26. He stopped bothering me about everything. He never cared what I did or where I went.
27. We slept in the same bed but sex was almost gone between us. He used to make love to me every night but because of my new life style he decided to let me be.
Once in a while he will touch me but I will not reciprocate, he will manage to take off my pants and have sex, which I know he never enjoyed because I never
reciprocated to it. My love and respect for him was almost gone. My first shock happened when we spent eight weeks without sex and yet he was holding conversation like
we are happy with each other. This new attitude of his was confusing to me.
28. The ninth week, I made a move to have sex with him, he simply asked if I had condom. I asked why he want to use condom, he quietly said that he has to protect
himself from disease.
29. He continued to act as if everything was okay between us but stopped eating my food, except the one prepared by my daughter. I would come back anytime of my
choice and he would look at me and say hi and walk away.
30. My first daughter refused to talk to me. I had my son and my little daughter on my side, so I thought at the time.
31. He sold two of his cars and organized a garage sale and sold off all the stuffs in the garage that he wanted to ship to Africa.
32. I rarely see him, as much because of my schedule and my life style, I did not know he went back to work and was sending every penny he made to finish his
mansion in Africa.
33. Eight months came and passed without sex with my husband and I was very confused. Although I was catching my fun outside and having a good time.
34. I made another sexual move on his 56th birthday, he responded to my move on the condition that we must protect ourselves and it was one of the wildest sexes I
have had with him or anyone else. After the sexual marathon, he looked me in the eye and told me that he will never sleep with me again even if I am the only lady left
in the world. He reminded me how much I hurt him, how I disappointed him, how I let him down, how I destroyed his family, how I made our children lost their respect
for him, how I told our children that I was the only one paying the whole bills and doesn’t know what he was doing with his money, how I made healthy food for myself
and make him cheap food that’s very unhealthy, how he starved for many times because he threw away the food I gave him for launch because it was stale, how I did only
my laundry and hide the detergent in my car to avoid him using it, how I bought fruits and hide them from him, how I only cared about myself and nobody else. That I do
not know what WE is, everything is about I and I alone, how he toiled and soiled to make me what I am today. I was so shocked to utter a word; I knew all he was saying
was the absolute truth. I died inside.
35. Three days later he called all our children including me for what I recall as the LAST SUPER. He had made his favorite dish, which the children admired, as we
were eating he addressed us individually and BLESSED his children and told them that he wish them the best in life. He tried so hard to hold himself but he was
consumed with emotion, he cried as he held hands with all his kids and prayed for them. When he was done blessing and advising them, he got up and went outside. Hi
kids followed him and they had a walk around the block and came back. None of my kids said a word to me. When I asked my daughter to get me something, she only looked
at me and walked away. I pulled her by her long hair and slapped her. My husband jumped in and yelled at me, while we were yelling at each other, my neighbors called
the cops and they arrived shortly. I told the cops that my husband is treating to kill me that was the worst mistake I made in my life. The cops ordered him to leave
the house and a restriction order was served him to stay away from me until further notice.
36. The cops gave him time to take whatever he needed for the time being and leave the house. My kids were there telling the cops that there dad did not do
anything but they wouldn’t listen. My husband took his brief case, and some of his toiletries and left the house. Before he stepped out of the house for his car, he
just starred at me for a long time and never uttered a word. I stood motionless and watched him get into his red BMW car and drove away.
DATING/REGRETS
37. Now my husband is gone, for a moment I was happy that I could do whatever I wanted. I started dating one of the doctors in the hospital, it lasted for only 3
weeks, and he went for another lady doctor who was posted to our unit newly. I confronted him with it and he told me that I have bad manners and he cannot stand my
ugly attitude. He dumped me just like that. I started dating a very young nurse who is in his mid 30. After 2 months, he told me that he couldn’t see me anymore
because his wife is in town.
38. I went for a rich retired lawyer who was 60 years old at the time. After 2 weeks of courtship, his daughter warned me to stay away from her father. I was
cooking for him one afternoon when the lawyer’s daughter stomped in the house and ordered me out of the house. My 60-year-old friend tried to talk sense into his
daughter but she ended up throwing me out of the house. I felt useless.
39. I dated a few people that I looked at as heavy weights because of their profession, I realized with a sense of shock that every one of them that I dated were
not as clean and as well groomed as my warehouse husband.
40. I slept with couple of people who showed serious interest in me only to talk down on me after sleeping with me.
ABANDONMENT
41. All my husband’s town people in Maryland Baltimore disowned me and made it clear that I am not allowed in any of their functions. Some of his friends refused
to pick my calls whenever I called them. My single and divorced hangout group started making mockery of me. Telling me how I lost a precious gold given to me by GOD.
They were the same people telling me how I was a slave to my husband and how I should get a life. Now they are telling me how they wished they had a hard working
husband like mine.
42. My son who was my best friend, joined hands with my daughter who was on the side of her father, together they left the family house for a basement apartment
where they shared the rent. I was mad at them for leaving the big family house for a basement apartment where they have to pay rent, my son looked me in the eye, and
said since I have decided to be a public prostitute that I can have the whole house to my self and bring in my many different ugly men in the house. My world
collapsed.
43. My parents called me to tell me that I have disgraced them and that I am not allowed in their house in Nigeria anymore. They were so bitter about how I had
treated my husband and that I have brought shame to the family. They hung up the phone on me before I could say a word.
44. Most of my Nigerian patients signed up with other doctors. I became an outcast in the society.
45. I became very frustrated and decided to take 3 weeks vacation as my job is been affected by all the drama in my life. I did not know where to start; first of
all, I wanted to find my husband and apologized and ask him to come back. I did not know how to reach him and all my children refused to give me his contact number. I
later heard that he moved into a one-room basement and has secured a job, which he works round the clock. Couple months down the road, I heard he has permanently moved
to Africa. I called all our family friends to help me get him to talk to me but none of those people wanted to talk to me. I told one of my fellow doctors about what I
am going through and how everybody has abandoned me. The guy told me that all those people that abandoned me now, once loved and respected me because of my husband. He
said that the beauty of a married woman is her husband. He told me about a story of a DONKEY who carried JESUS through a certain city and how people gathered on the
street to touch and see them. The next day, the same DONKEY went back to the same street and nobody said a word to him, not even a single soul reorganized him. The
reason why they were gathered on the street the first day was because he was carrying JESUS; today he had no JESUS and a nobody. In order words, he was telling me that
all those people that surrounded and showed me respect and love was because of my husband, and now that he is gone, I am nobody. That’s was a painful realization for
me.
REALIZATION
My very best friend and a fellow doctor invited me over her house to spend the weekend with them. She owns a big house and it was just she and her husband in the big
house. Their kids has grown and moved out of the house. I accepted the invitation and drove over her home. I got there at about 4:30 pm on a Friday evening.
Immediately I walked into the house with a huge hug from my friend, she got on the phone and informed her husband that I have arrived and for him to buy us something
to munch on before the night super. The way she spoke to her husband shocked me. She was so nice to him and called him the best names in the world. My friend’s husband
works in a warehouse like my husband and my friend is a qualified surgeon. This is a tough looking woman who comes across as a woman who would not take nonsense from
any man, and here she is acting like a schoolgirl who just found her first boyfriend. This couple has been together for 40 years and yet, she is as loyal very
submissive to the man as if they just met. Her husband arrived home 45 minutes later and she rushed to the door to greet him and immediately asked him how his day
went. She took his launch bag from him and helped him take off his workboats. She opened his launch bag and said Darling, why didn’t you eat all the fruits I packed
for you…he responded that he will eat them later. I felt very ashamed of myself. I never cared to give my husband fruits or any kind of treats. All I do is to put
whatever I have for him and let him pack it in his launch bag. Like I said in the FIFTH STAGE number 22, I will serve him the same food from week to week, although he
never complained but I knew deep down my heart that he was never happy but he has no choice at the time.
When dinnertime came, she brought out food and 3 glasses, a jug of ice-creamed milk, a jug of iced clean water and a bottle of red wine. I was there watching as they
were acting like newly found lovers. We all ate the delicious well prepared food and spent some time talking about life in general. While we were talking, she looked
at the wall clock and motioned me to come to the kitchen, she whispered in my ears that her husband’s favorite sports in on, she kissed him on the cheek and placed a
bottle of red wine and a glass on the coffee table and told him to enjoy the game. There was another TV in the kitchen where we sat and watched American idols. I
remembered how happy I used to be with my husband and how much he adored and suffered for me. I remembered all the good things he did for my parents and me and how
much he always wanted me to look the best whenever we go out with our friends. I remembered how confident and strong my husband is.
I remembered how he takes his time
to groom himself and how handsome he looks and how his friends respected and seek for his friendship. I told my girl friend that I had to go home; she looked at me in
surprise and demanded why the change of mind. The original plan was to spend the whole weekend with them, but I wanted to go home, I started crying and she came close
to me and wanted to know why I was crying. I told her that I missed my husband, and that I want him back. It was at this time that my girlfriend made me aware that
she would do anything in the world to keep her husband. She assured me that it shall be well, that her husband will talk to my husband and we will take it from there.
My friend me aware that MEN are like DOGS (man’s best friend) if you treat your dogs well, it will protect and die for you, but if you treat them bad, they bite you.
She said that a woman must love a man first before been loved by that man. If you appreciate your husband and are very submissive and respectful, he will love and
worship you in return. She did her best to console me but I was shattered by what I did to him.
FINAL STAGE AND THE BIGGEST BLOW (2 years later)
46. My son and daughter informed me that they were traveling to Africa to attend their father’s wedding. I did not understand exactly what they meant, I told them
to come to the house so we can discuss in person, they told me that they have already checked in and the plane should be leaving in a couple minutes, and that was the
end of the discussion as the phone cut off.
47. Couples days later, I called my parents in Africa to get some information, my father wanted to know why I cared about him since I was the one who treated him
like an idiot. He was yelling at me and calling me all sorts of names. He hung up the phone on me. I called again and my son answered the phone and said …mom, guess
who daddy is getting married to……before I could say one word, he said daddy is marring my favorite aunty, I said who is your aunty. He said, your youngest sister. I
collapsed and cried all night.
48. Meanwhile my little daughter was giving me headache to take her to her dad back in Africa and she wanted to join her siblings and attend her father’s wedding.
I purchased emergency tickets for both of us and headed to Africa. On getting there, my parents did not receive me well, they were admiring my little daughter and
called her brother and sister who came and took her to her daddy. I was left alone and felt very stupid.
49. I was loved and highly loved by my husband’s family and the entire village but today nobody seemed to reorganize me. Anyone that sees me gives me a cut eye and
they will suck on their teeth and look me from head to toe and roll their eyes and walk away.
50. I begged my parents to help talk to my husband and to stop him from marring my youngest sister. My father ordered me out of the compound and never to come
back. He asked me if someone treats my son the way I have treated my husband, another woman’s son if I would be happy. I could not talk, my whole body was shaking. To
my greatest surprise, most of my single or divorced friends were already in Nigeria to be part of the wedding.
51. I finally summoned courage to visit my husband’s village, I could not believe my eyes when I saw his mansion. It was a 2 story, 10-bedroom mansion with a pent
house. Security guards were all over the place as if it’s a government house.
52. The head security guard used to be our driver when I was back in Africa, I was happy to see him but when he asked me who I was looking for, I felt uneasy. I
called him by his name but he repeated his question. This time, he was like……madam please tell me whom you want to see. I quietly told him that I just returned from
America and I want to see my husband and my children. He said he don’t care whether I returned from HEAVEN OR HELL, that I have to provide proof that CHAIRMAN was
expecting me.
53. While I was arguing with the security guards at the gate, a convoy of cars arrived. Some of them were my supposedly hangout single and divorced friends,
doctors and the lawyers that I used to hangout with. One of them came over to me and said Hi and walked into the huge canopied compound. The big jeep in the middle
was my husband and my youngest sister holding hands and acting like ROMEO AND JULIET. My sister never uttered a word to me. She hung on to my husband and starring at
me.
54. My husband was looking so good and remained very calm. His presence was so powerful, he looked very distinguished in the native attire he was wearing, he was
well groomed as usual…. in that instant, I remembered what he told me when he asked for my hand in marriage….he said and I quote: Gold and silver I have none, but if
you love me and accept me as your husband, I will cherish and worship you as my wife….end quote.
55. All the married women and girls in the village came out and was looking at me as if I was a mad woman. They started to render insults on me, how I disgraced
their brother and wanted him to die in America.
56. My husband told them to stop, and they immediately stopped. One of the women spit on me and walked away. My husband headed to his compound and I followed suit.
He stopped and asked me where I thought I was going. I told him that I want to have a talk with him but he said he couldn’t talk to me because of his busy schedule. He
walked into the compound and the guards refused me entry. I started yelling at the gate man to lay off me. 15 minutes later, I was arrested by the police for
trespassing and was served a restriction order never to show my face in that compound again.
57. My husband is still married to my youngest sister and the are love birds. They have 3 kids and are doing very well and happy together. I lost my job, I have no
man and I am very old and lonely. God help me.
